Different Strokes For Different Folks

                                       

      Happiness

 How to Be Happy                                                           

                       

        To a certain degree vacillation is a sign of maturity. Some people meet, fall in love and get

married right away. But others can take their own sweet time in the sock aisle at the department

store, weighing the pros and cons of buying a pair of pink argyles or black striped.

Vacillation may be useful in some situations. People don't fall neatly into one category, but

generally speaking they tend to do so fairly consistently in some areas of their lives. 

       Certainty is seeing the world as choices are clear cut. Their job, their relationships,

which political candidate they vote for. People who speak their mind or make quick decisions,

are more predictable as say how they vote. They are less anxious about making wrong choices.

fewer conflicts with bad relationships are long drawn out affairs. They are less likely to consider

others' people points of view on a contentious issue. A test was given to a group of students that

were allowed to write about both sides on an issue on a new labor law. The students that were

forced to choose a definite opinion said they were more uncomfortable, even physically

sweating more than the vacilaing group.

     .  Because of their strongly positive or strongly negative views, certainty tend to be quicker

at making decisions than vacillation people.  Every job has good and bad elements. But

people who aren’t vacillating about their job perform well, if they like their work and poorly if

they don't. Certainty thinkers tend to focus on key aspects of their job, such as how much they are getting paid or how much they like their boss and not the total overall picture in determining whether they are happy at work. Certainty thinkers similarly may recognize that there are positive and negative aspects to a significant relationship. But they generally choose to focus only on some qualities that is particularly important to them. The bad side of this is if they get mired in one point of view and can’t see others point of view their thinking may prompt conflict with other or unhealthy thoughts of behaviors.

     Vacillation people who have conflicting feelings about situations have more of they didn't

think it was meaningful. The way researchers studied attitudes—by asking participants where

they fell on a scale ranging from positive to negative—also made it difficult to tease apart who

held conflicting opinions from those who were neutral. Similarly, psychologists long believed it

wasn't necessary to examine men and women separately when studying the way people think.

Now, researchers have been investigating how, vacillation or lack of it, affects people's lives,

and how they might be able to make better decisions so as to be happier. Vacillating,

thinking in is a sign of maturity, enabling people to see the world as it really is. It's a coming to

grips with the complexity of the world. 

To be continued…

DR. KARL WALLACE D.D.S.   Ogden, Utah

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